I used to get panic attacks when we were around my parents. I used to get panic attacks all the time, but that is another long story. My wife and I have been together for 8 years! Eight years..she is my family. When we got engaged, my wife called my dad and asked for his blessing and he said he give her his blessing but would not attend our commitment ceremony.
Can’t even type out how that made me feel, it still hurts my feelings to the core. We got legally married last year, I am not sure why I even asked my mom to come but I did and she said she would ask my dad. I bet you can figure out what happens, they did not come. Another punch in the gut. In the past year, my dad has called me a “rebel,” for talking to my ex-brother-in-law to talk to my niece and nephew. He is the only way I can talk to them since my sister and I do not have a relationship. My ex-brother-in-law and the kids came to visit, and WOW, let me the tell you, ANXIETY CITY!! I thought I was going to get sick, and if you read my blog, you know I am scared of that so that shows you how anxious I was. My dad gave me a ultimatum, either I let my family visit or don’t. Either way, I lost. So my wife told me that letting my niece and nephew visit would be good and it was. It was the best and I would not take that time back with them for anything in the world. My relationship with my parents is now estranged. My birthday and Christmas just passed, we send cards back and forth but that is the extent. It’s sad, but my wife and I chose to move on with our life. Crystal and I made our own family, we have each other, our two dogs but also our good friends who are our family.
“Family isn’t always blood. Its the people in your life who want you in theirs; the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile and love you no matter what.” That quote can not be more real for my wife and I, we are so blessed for the family we have.
Keep Moving Forward.
Love – WBC